Single & Married Ladies – Divorce Him?

Hi Ladies,

When you’ve made the freewill decision to marry, the Lord is not to be blamed when problems arise later. Being neither an innocent victim nor an unwilling participant, you bear the responsibilities of a full-fledged covenant partner. And yes, your marriage covenant is as serious to Almighty God as the Ten Commandments themselves!

When you choose to pledge wedding vows to a husband, you are also pledging them to our Father, and He hears you loud and clear. So, you must take a very long-term view of any potential suitor. He can’t be kicked out when he’s gotten on your last nerve; and you cannot change your mind and ditch him, or replace him later with a better choice. Seek God, and if you cannot fulfill His binding marital covenant, you are not ready yet to marry.

TESTIMONY Continued:

When I left my adulterous drug addict spouse and started my new life, I thought that was the end of it. Then after receiving salvation five years later, I felt the desire to marry again, but God just seemed to be sitting on His hands. Finally, during prayer time, after some serious moaning and complaining, the Lord informed me that He would not provide another husband because I was still a married woman both in His sight and legally. I was only a runaway wife, and was dismayed to realize this unfinished business was blocking my blessing.

When I asked what to do, I heard, “Ask forgiveness from Me, and ask forgiveness from your husband.” Well, requesting it from the Lord wasn’t a problem, and I promptly did so, but I decided to stand my ground and ignore the part about seeking forgiveness from a man who had so grievously wronged me. Finally, after a year of disobedience, the futility of rebellion became obvious. I sent a letter to the old address, explaining my salvation, that I understood he’d been wronged, and was asking his forgiveness. And if he wanted reconciliation, despite years of non-communication, the option was open. If not, I needed him to forgive me completely, in order to end the marriage.

Writing that letter was one of the hardest things I’d ever done. I cried and agonized over every word, taking them back in my heart, then repenting for pride, and writing some more. When the letter was finally mailed, I fervently hoped he’d never see it. Six months passed and I felt better for having completed what the Lord told me to do. Now I could file papers and move on. But nothing is ever simple with Almighty God.

In the seventh month, a letter arrived. He had gotten my missive, mulled it over, then decided to come to see me and our kids. To my surprise, I no longer felt threatened. Instead, God opened my eyes, enabling me to see him with His compassion, and there was none of the fighting, recriminations or accusations I’d expected. Then on Sunday morning he reluctantly accompanied us to church, where to my astonishment, with a tear streaked face, he went forward to accept Christ as Savior.

Two days later, he was delivered from the heroin addiction, and the Lord freed me from the festering resentments that had hardened into my own form of bondage. Because he had another family, we acknowledged the end of the marriage, forgave one another, and I rejoiced in ministering to an excited, happy, but scared new baby Christian.

My covenant husband was then released, and turned up less than a year later. This remembrance still brings me awe at the power and compassion of our Lord. Never say ‘No’ to whatever He instructs you to do! The Father was not interested in reviving a long dead marriage, but in saving a man’s soul. And in the process, I learned to fully trust and submit to His Sovereign Will.

Seek God before you commit to a man, and if you’ve left your marriage for any reason, ask His forgiveness for breaking covenant.   If you’re also convicted to seek forgiveness from that ex-husband, follow as Holy Spirit leads. Everything’s under His control!

Joy and Shalom!