Wait Time


Hi Ladies,

Seedtime and Harvest”…this is the KJV version of Genesis 8: 22.  However, another interpretation of this process is “Seed, Time, and Harvest”.  There is a time to plant, and a time of allowing that seed to take root and flourish, followed by a time to harvest and reap the rewards.  This is the process of awaiting the results of warfare prayers, and for the arrival of your ordained mate.

But as time passes, many questions will arise, which must be openly addressed, thoughtfully considered, and properly resolved. With crystal clarity on God’s answers, they won’t return to plague your thoughts again.  But when left vague or open ended, the enemy will use such questions to torment you with indecision and wavering.  So let’s begin with one of the most prevalent queries from God’s single ladies:


Why Must I Wait?   That’s All I’m Doing Anyway…!

“Wait” is a word that people tend to dislike. For many Believers, Our Father’s sovereign timing may be perceived as an obstacle with little discernible justification.  It can seem to be an arbitrary edict designed primarily to hamper us from moving forward.

So we start to wonder why God’s taking so long, and what we can do about it, and we may even step out to jumpstart the process ourselves. But as you know, waiting is generally required in our walk with Christ, and that‘s certainly true of marriage.

This urge to act can occur in any area of our lives, not only with relationships. It’s normal to experience impatience when we can visualize our ultimate goal, whether it’s a wedding, or a great career, or a dynamic ministry.  We’d much prefer to get there immediately.

A common but accurate analogy is that of standing on a mountaintop, and gazing across at the next mountain that we’d like to reach. We would love to simply stride over onto it in one giant step, but that’s not possible in either the physical or the spiritual worlds.  Instead, the way to our next mountaintop winds downhill, across valleys and bogs or dry deserts, then uphill again in order to reach that next peak.  We must take the time to follow the necessary road, step by individual step, to reach our goals.

The good news is that our pathway has been established by Father God Himself.   And despite there being no quick fixes, if we stay on the path that He has set for us, we will get there.  Meanwhile, there is much required of us along the way.  Marriage is never The LORD’s ultimate aim for our life.  There are other more important tasks for us to accomplish as we follow Him, and as we do so, our focus and priorities will shift from anxiously awaiting a spouse, to obeying the Will of God.



Waiting for the answer to our prayers for a specific goal is far easier when we have attained a Vision of what our life is truly about.  We have a purpose when we know the reason for our being here, and how we fit into The LORD’s plans for His Body.  We are not simply to idle around on hold, conducting a countdown of hours, days, months or years until our personal prayers are fulfilled.

Our lives have meaning not only to us and to Our Heavenly Father, but also to those around us.  We’re here to be a blessing to the world, and our Vision will encompass the tasks that we are to accomplish during our time alive on Earth.  It is The LORD’s very own ‘Mission Plan’, purposed for each of us individually, and He waits patiently for us to claim and embrace it.

What is a ‘Vision’?  It is simply God’s directive to us.  It is a purpose, a goal, a method by which He can work through our lives and our actions to advance His Kingdom.  His Vision unlocks our Divine Destiny, and gives us a larger, more unselfish motivation for our ambitions, our prayers, and our activities.

We’ll discuss the Stages of God’s Vision process next week.  Until then, Joy and Shalom!

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Rules of Engagement


Hi Ladies,

Here are the remaining “Rules of Engagement” for warfare prayers for your mate-to-be. They will help smooth the pathway for your answer.

#3 – Pray in the Name of Jesus. The demonic forces we confront when we intercede against the adversary do not recognize us as being threats, nor as being capable of defeating them, because in our own strength we are not.

The only Authority and the only Name they acknowledge is the name of JESUS CHRIST, the NAME above all names, KING of kings, and LORD of lords. No other name has this power, and certainly not ours. The simplest way to establish in Whose name we’re praying is to actually use the words, “in the Name of Jesus Christ” in our warfare prayers…then neither we nor the devil will mistake Who is doing the commanding.

Matthew 28: 18 – “Then Jesus came and spoke to them, saying, ‘All authority has been given to Me in heaven and on earth.”

Luke 10: 17 – “Lord, even the demons are subject to us in Your name.”

#4 – Never pray against another person. It is essential to understand that in warfare prayer, we’re not coming against individuals, but are doing battle in the heavens against rulers of darkness and wickedness, and against spiritual principalities. Concentrate on the actual enemy, not on people who may be acting negatively toward you, or those whom you may perceive as behaving poorly toward your future spouse.

When you are interceding on behalf of a mate in the physical realm, you must confront the forces that seek to hinder him in the spirit realm, for as Ephesians 6: 12 cautions, “For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual wickedness in the heavenly places.” Other people are not the enemy; the spirits which reside in and control them are.

#5 – Expect a battle. Nothing about warfare is ever without conflicts, and if there were no skirmishes, it wouldn’t be war. When you begin the processes of binding, loosing and intercession, often people and situations may seem to go badly or will turn against you unexpectedly.These adversities may appear unrelated to what you are praying about, but actually can be directly linked. The strategy of Satan will be to distract you from the warfare you’re engaging in, so that you will falter in the attempt, or become so distressed that you’ll abandon it entirely.

For example, if the man you’re praying for is already known to you, he may suddenly act differently, perhaps becoming distant or seeming uninterested. Don’t allow yourself to become discouraged from interceding on his behalf, but keep in mind that God has the matter ultimately in His Own hands.

Your purpose, as the scripture in Ezekiel 6: 12 states, is to stand in the gap, and ask God to meet his needs, not to pray yourself into this man’s life. Never let your motives become double-minded because neither God nor the devil will be fooled.  And no matter how fervent your prayers, Our LORD will never overrule the man’s own desires on your behalf.

Exercising godly wisdom and discernment is required. Dictionary.com defines Discernment as “acuteness of judgment, and understanding”.  It is the ability to know the differences between opposites, and what makes one choice right and another wrong.  In spiritual matters, discernment is critical. Unless we are able to distinguish between impulses that are from God versus those from the devil, we can easily become confused, with detrimental results.

Ezekiel 44: 23 – “…teach My people the difference between the holy and the unholy and cause them to discern between the unclean and the clean.”

I Corinthians 2: 14 – “But the natural man receiveth not the things of the Spirit of God: for they are foolishness unto him:  neither can he know them for they are spiritually discerned.”

Discernment shows us who we are fighting against, and his strategies against us. And it will render the adversary’s weapons useless. Until next week… Joy and Shalom!

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5 Rules of Warfare


Hi Ladies,

I experienced the effectiveness of binding, loosing and intercession when my husband-to-be arrived less than six months after I began praying on his behalf. God guided me in properly utilizing this spiritual weapon, and clarified that there are rules for our warfare prayers for us to understand and abide by, just as with any other form of combat:


#1 – Warfare prayers are a private matter. When God has placed it upon your heart to intercede for a person, you are not confronting that person but are dealing with the enemy instead. This concerns only you, God, and the devil.

Never announce, boast, or otherwise notify anyone, especially the man, that you are praying for him. If your future mate is unknown to you, this is easy. But if you know him, please stay silent unless he has publically acknowledged a need and has requested prayers.

Otherwise, if you serve notice that a man has become your personal prayer project, your announcement may backfire. Your effectiveness as a prayer warrior will be lessened, and a potential relationship may even be hindered from properly developing.

Why? …Because you will be attempting to take matters into your own hands, rather than allowing God to do His work.

When you open your mouth to voice your plans, you give Satan the opportunity to turn your words and motives around and to plant negative thoughts against you. Most men fail to comprehend exactly why you want to war on their behalf, and are likely to react suspiciously to your intentions, however good they may be.

Place your trust in The LORD and in His promises, and leave the outcome to Him. Honor God by holding your peace, and as Philippians 4: 6, 7 advises, “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” And I add that, in conjunction with your purity of motives, He will also guard your tongue.

#2 – Warfare prayer is not pleading. Beseeching God for the answer to our prayers is not warfare. Warring in the spirit assumes that Our Father has already heard our request, knows our heart, and has sent the answer. In warfare, we’re not to waste time continually tugging at Our LORD. Instead, we seek to engage the adversary, not to bombard Heaven.

This is an entirely different prayer motivation. It accepts that our Sovereign LORD is fully aware of our desires, and that the goal is now to defeat the forces of evil that may be restraining or detaining the answer. See Daniel 10: 12, 13… God’s response to Daniel’s request had been dispatched on the day he prayed, but the angel delivering the message encountered demonic resistance and was delayed for twenty one days.

When you commence binding, loosing and intercession, you accept that the Vision that God has given you concerning your future marital partner is true, so constantly praying for it to happen is unnecessary. You’re operating within the boundaries of His Grace and His revealed Will, so are empowered take a proactive stance against powers, principalities and spiritual wickedness (Ephesians 6: 12).

Seek to combat the traps that have been specifically crafted to steal, to kill and to destroy your ordained spouse. Intercede against those, with the spiritual authority you’ve been given in Christ Jesus.

Warfare prayers are based upon a foundation of Trust, not in man but in Almighty God. When we totally trust Our FATHER, we know that we can depend upon Him to meet all our needs.  And we understand that the desire in our heart for a mate has been placed there by Our Sovereign LORD Himself. So utilize the Sword of the Spirit He’s given you, your warfare weapon.

FYI, this Hebraic month, Elul, means “The King is in the field”, out from His palace and down among the people, ready to address their requests. …That’s why the pictured sword is in grass, not lying upon stone.  You’ve got special access!

More warfare rules next week…Joy and Shalom!


Clear His Path


Hi Ladies,

While I was single, with no man in sight, God revealed to me that I needed to clear the path for my future husband’s arrival. I was to pray for him…not just prayers for his manifestation into my life, or praying about what he should be.  Those prayers are fine, but they are also incomplete.  The key to answered prayer was to actually pray for him.

We’ve already considered other preparations for marriage, but in deciding to launch intensive praying on behalf of a mate, we’re entering different territory. We are indicating our readiness to do battle in the spiritual realm.

Satan is vigilant, and when we take a stand for such a specific goal, we will confront forces meant to impede or derail us from our intended course of action. But Our Father has given us the most powerful of all weapons to be used to defeat them:

Binding, Loosing, Intercession

Matthew 18: 18 declares “Assuredly, I say to you, whatever you bind on earth shall be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven.”

We can deflect or thwart satanic activities by binding, or praying against the evil works of the devil.  The acts we want to loose, or pray to come about instead are the works of the Holy Spirit to combat and defeat the adversary.  This is an exercise of Faith that we can use to stand firm for any Vision, including our vision for marriage.

And it also applies to praying for a mate…you have the right to intercede for him. Ask Christ to bless him, and pray that he will be strong in his faith. Bind the actions of Satan in his life, and declare that no weapon formed against him will prosper. Loose the Spiritual Fruit of Peace, Joy and Love to reign in his heart.

“But I don’t even know him. How can I pray such things?”

You can do so because you have been given this privilege by The LORD Himself. Intercession is simply undertaking to pray for another person’s welfare, safety, godliness, needs or whatever else God puts on your heart to request, whether they are known to you personally or not.  It is the same way we pray for our church leaders, government officials and nation.  It requires caring enough for another’s wellbeing to seek The LORD’s mercy and blessings upon them.

For your husband-to-be, your intercessory prayers and ability to bind negative spirits will help to defeat challenges that may be hindering him. You can also, as I did, ask Our Father to loose in him the desire for a godly wife, so that when God brings you together, he’ll recognize that he has found the answer to his prayers.

The concept of intercession is clearly described in Ezekiel 22: 29, 30 – “The people of the land have used oppressions, committed robbery, and mistreated the poor and needy; and they wrongfully oppress the stranger. So I sought for a man among them who would make a wall, and stand in the gap before Me on behalf of the land, that I should not destroy it, but I found no one.”

This situation is what intercession is all about – praying for the benefit of others. If just one person had asked God for mercy on the people, He would have spared their lives.  The principle is the same when we pray to Our Father for those who matter to us.

Intercessory prayer is not begging.   Instead, Binding, Loosing, and Intercession are crucial tools for spiritual warfare.  Our adversary’s goal is to prevent or take what is rightfully ours, but we must stand our ground.  We cannot allow our possessions to be stolen away when God has given us the ability to stop the thief!  The sword that we wield is our Power of Prayer.  And it is yours to use to help clear the pathway for your spouse.

Until next week… Joy and Shalom!

Your Criteria

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Hi Ladies,

When visualizing, and asking God for a mate, you must understand exactly what you’re truly seeking. It’s essential to recognize your foundational criteria in a spouse – they are important to you, and your prayers will be ineffectual if you don’t acknowledge them.  Wealth was mentioned in the last post, and possibly for you the glitter of riches is actually non-negotiable.  You would never be happy with or able to respect a man with limited earning potential.  Your guy could be short, thirty years older, and unfortunate in appearance, but that’s not a problem as long as he can afford you.

Or maybe spectacular physical beauty, however fleeting, is absolutely essential for your man – if that’s the case, then hunker down and wait for God to deliver. You’ll probably be happier not marrying at all rather than settling for a spouse who will be struggling financially for the rest of his life.  Or walking down the aisle with a fellow you find physically unappealing, no matter how great his other attributes.

Your decision to avoid such entanglements is honorable, as long as you don’t jump ship and hitch to a non-believer just because he meets your requirements. With such a choice you will have crossed the line and fallen for a seducer.  The difference between God’s Will and Satan’s deception is subtle but very real.  The enemy’s goal is always to tempt you away from Our Father and from your faith, and any option that leads you in that direction is the wrong one.

An excellent way to be certain that you are rightly discerning The LORD’s leading is when you experience perfect peace about the decision you are making.

I Corinthians 14: 33 – “For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace.”

Philippians 4: 6.7 – “Be careful for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your request be made known unto God; and the peace of God, which passeth all understanding shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”

Proverbs 20: 24 – “A person’s steps are directed by the Lord. How then can anyone understand their own way?”

When you stay prayerfully in touch with God, you can never miss His Plan, especially in the area of perceiving and receiving your proper mate. Our Creator knows exactly who you are, where you are at all times, and how to get His chosen fellow to you.  Just don’t shut yourself up at home waiting for a male to arrive…get out and about, and on with your life.  Proceed with friendliness and kindness to pursue the Vision, the Mission Plan that Our Father has given you.  Acknowledge your wishes both to The LORD and to yourself, and let Him handle the details.

But there are a couple of warnings in the Word of God about holding out for money:

Luke 12: 15 – “Take heed and beware of all covetousness, for a man’s life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions.

1 Chronicles 29: 12 – “Both riches and honor come from Thee, and Thou rulest over all.”

Jeremiah 17: 11 – “Like a partridge that hatches eggs it did not lay, are those who gain riches by unjust means. When their lives are half gone, their riches will desert them, and in the end they will prove to be fools.”

In other words, proper riches and honor come from The LORD alone, by His guiding our steps. If we attempt to obtain them in some other way, the results may not be as pleasant as we’d hoped.

But always remember I Corinthians 10: 13 – “No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear.  But when you are tempted, He will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.”

Next, we’ll cover the Bible’s instructions on the components of effective mate prayers. Joy and Shalom!

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Hi Ladies,

Should I pray for a mate? Definitely yes, if you truly want to get married and a husband is your desire from God.  But have you given much thought to exactly what you want him to be?  Do you know the kind of man you’d like?

The best way to receive what you want from Our Father is to be clear on what you are asking for. Visualize the type of spouse you want, then pray for that.  It is okay to be specific about his looks, his career, his spirituality, and every other aspect that is important to you.  Think about it – if you wanted a new car, would just any car do, or would you have a preference for the model and features you’d like?  True… guys aren’t cars, but if you don’t have clarity on what you want, you won’t recognize when you’ve received it.

But caution is advised! In the King James, I Timothy 4: 1 talks of “seducing spirits” – “in the latter times, some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits, and doctrines of devils.”  Other versions refer to these tempters as “deceiving” or “deceitful” spirits.  Deceptions are one of the enemy’s most common weapons against us, and he makes them beguiling and attractive.  Just as he himself was not a red demon with horns and a pitchfork, but was one of Our Creator’s most beautiful angels, so will deceptions be presented to you, especially when you begin praying for a specific request.

It is essential to understand your own set of seducing spirits. Satan will attempt to entice you in your area of weakness, but when you know where the mines are, it’s far easier to avoid them.  Especially pertaining to males, identify which aspects are a special temptation for you.  For example, maybe you’ve always been drawn to wealth, but God intends for you to have faith for His provision in this area.  Along comes the Believer you’ve been praying about, and you’re delighted with him in every way except that he’ll never be rich, and he doesn’t even want to be.

So what’s the enemy going to do? He won’t dispatch a penniless guy to distract your attention, but will send out the glossy attorney with the big Mercedes who works in your office building.  Lucky you!  But the accurate word here is ‘lucky’, not ‘blessed’, because this man may be a totally committed unbeliever, and if you allow your own desires to lure you, you will be embracing a deception.

Or perhaps you’ve always had a weakness for really handsome guys, or tall muscular ones, but the available Christian men seem to be neither.  Under the sway of your perceived attraction criteria, you’ll sift through dozens of fellows, dismissing them without consideration while awaiting the one who has the superficial attributes that you crave.

Maybe it’s not money or appearance, but prestige or status, or as one lady told me, “anything as long as he’s a preacher”.  We all have non-negotiable areas in our evaluation of the opposite sex, and they are not necessarily weaknesses.  Instead they form our core values, and Our Father will honor them in the mate He’s designed for us.

My own non-negotiable, besides strong Christian faith, was intelligence.  It didn’t matter what degrees he possessed as long as he could keep up with me mentally.  But I was unwilling to deal with any guy who I felt was an idiot.  And he had to be tall.  So The LORD blessed me with a 6’3” minister who is more than my match intellectually.  With the criteria of faith, height, and brains present, ‘flaws’ didn’t matter.

God loves you very much, and when your innate preferences are a ‘bent’ or trait that He Himself put into you, such leanings are not problematic…instead they’ll help you recognize your ordained spouse.  However, it is crucial to identify the seducers, lures and temptations that the enemy will place in your path.  They are not the same as the values that Our Father has given you which make you who you are.   More on “mating prayers” to come…Joy and Shalom!

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Hi Ladies,

If you’re new to this blog, please visit some of the earlier posts. They’ll provide a foundation for the deeper waters we’re treading into.  I’ve tried to shorten the posts for you busy ladies, but their biblical information is difficult to cut!  I’ll keep working to edit them down, but my mandate is to share what “Thus saith The LORD”, the sole reason for the blog.  Now let’s investigate the remaining trap attempting to ensnare the Christian woman who has ventured into the error of premarital sex.

Trap #3 is when we’ve succumbed to a reprobate mind.  There is nothing that The LORD will not forgive if we are sincere in seeking His forgiveness.  But to develop a stony heart of disobedience is to forsake Our Father’s mercy and help.  The actions discussed in the last post signify true blasphemy, a word that Dictionary.com defines as “an act of cursing or reviling God”.

This condition is described in Mark 3: 28, 29 – “Assuredly I say to you, all sins will be forgiven the sons of men, and whatever blasphemies they may utter, but he who blasphemes against the Holy Spirit never has forgiveness, but is subject to eternal condemnation.”


When we begin a process of justification and acceptance of a debased state of mind or an immoral activity, we remove ourselves from the Source of our strength.   Instead we reject Our Father in favor of adopting a pet sin.  Rather than renouncing it, we decide to keep and protect our “weakness”, sheltering it in a closet, a hidden place that we keep shut away from God and everyone else.  It becomes the secret sin, the one that nobody else knows about.   But when we keep quietly feeding, nurturing and protecting it, eventually it will outgrow that closet and will burst out into the light for all to see.

Shielding and harboring a pet sin will alter our relationship with The LORD. Instead of coming to Him confessing our disobedience, the increasingly sporadic times when we do pray will be spent skirting around the issue as if God doesn’t know it’s there.  Of course He does, but we’ve decided to believe a lie, a delusion of our own choosing.  The lie is whatever makes us feel better without confronting the actual situation.

The lie could be that “Everything really is all right”; or that “It is well with my soul”. It could be that “God understands, and this is not such a big deal”.  The delusion may be that if it’s left alone, the “problem” will eventually go away, and we’ll automatically be back in right standing with Our Creator.

But sins don’t just disappear of their own volition. Instead they dig in deeper, and grow bigger.  When we decide to keep and protect one, we’ve just given the devil a stronghold, a foothold in our life, which he can and will use against us.

As Believers we must always understand that we are to forsake sin, not try to reason with, control, or reform it. Nothing that the adversary sends our way, no matter how appealing it appears to be, must be allowed to intervene and subvert our relationship with Jesus Christ.  We must be ready to stop running from, stop agreeing with, stop appeasing, and stop cohabitating with the enemy.  An immoral impulse cannot be coddled because its’ ultimate goal is to destroy us.  Our only choice is to combat and eliminate it.  Only then can the Holy Spirit regain ascendency over the physical, reducing the enemy to a defeated foe, and restoring us into correct alignment with God.

But we have been given the keys in Scripture to open up the lock to our closet of secrets, and to soften our hardened heart. The way to a happy, godly, spiritually fulfilling marriage lies only in following the path that Our Father has ordained.  What can be done to repair the damage, and to proper prepare for the arrival of our mate?  

More next Wednesday…Joy and Shalom!

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