Hi Ladies,

The LORD notified me last week that the book He gave me is actually in two parts… LOVE IN THE BOOK 1 – Prepping for Love and Marriage; and LOVE IN THE BOOK 2 – The Partner Guide. My posts so far have been from Book 1, dealing with the mindsets of trust and preparation required to receive God’s ordained mate.

Now we’ll start delving into Book 2 to discuss the fascinating topic of men! The Bible provides so much guidance on what constitutes a “Good Man”, as well as what to be cautious about, and what to avoid completely. And as with everything in the life of a Believing Lady, it is essential to follow The Word in order to receive the blessing!

Today’s Christian woman understands that joy, and happiness, must come from within, from our own right attitude, and from the Holy Spirit residing in us. Such expectations should never be pinned onto another person. Our focus is wrong if we expect someone else to supply our own needs.

But it is essential to stay conscious of the voice of Our Father. Otherwise, loneliness, or a deep craving for love, or the desire to be the main attraction in a wedding, or a fear of being childless, or innumerable other reasons can propel us into an unwise union. By our own willfulness, and by deliberately rejecting His Will, we can short-circuit the best that The LORD has for our life.

If you are single, you’re blessed with a very special gift – the opportunity to live up to the potential that Our Father has placed in you, and to allow Him to guide your selection of a mate. As 1 Corinthians notes, “The unmarried woman careth for the things of The LORD, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.”

While unencumbered by matrimony, you still have the option to do it right, and not to settle for accepting less than Our Father’s perfect choice. You are not desperate, or a damsel in distress. And you don’t need a knight in shining armor, or a knight-pretender, bringing glittery baubles when you yourself are a treasure, of great worth both to Almighty God and to any potential suitor.

Jesus Christ is our strong foundation, the Rock upon which all Believers must maintain their footing, and we can trust that He is guiding our path as we follow Him daily. He is the only One who knows the way. But single ladies today face choices that were inconceivable in biblical times. We are no longer married off by our families, and for the most part, are free to leave our father’s household after reaching legal age. We’re able to follow our own pursuits, secure in the knowledge that we have value both to Our LORD and to a mate, for as Proverbs 18: 22 confirms, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord“.

BUT…there are several scenarios in which a perfectly rational single lady can deliberately decide to try to push God into swifter action. Hebrews 10: 36 advises, “For ye have need of patience, that after ye have done the will of God, ye might receive the promise.” Instead, her own sense of urgency begins to overwhelm biblical injunctions to wait, and she may succumb to making an ill-advised decision. Such a decision almost invariably involves making a questionable selection in men. Let’s consider some of the more prevalent reasons/excuses for taking, or attempting to take, matters into our own hands…

Until next week, Joy and Shalom!