Hi Ladies,
Unwed sex, with the defrauding and deception so often involved, is a primary reason for the loveless, sexless relationships that frequently develop after wedded life settles in. There is absolutely no reason to risk building a strong, God-sanctioned union by giving in to the temptation to satisfy premarital lusts.
As a godly woman, you can choose to make the quality decision to hold out for our Father’s very best blessings by following His instructions for building a relationship. The ultimate result and His gift to you will be a solid, happy marriage to a man with whom you are thoroughly compatible in Spirit, Soul and Body.
Faux Love:
Just because your world lights up when he enters the room, and you can’t keep your hands off each other, doesn’t mean it is love. The emotions aroused when a person is captivated by physical intimacy are often mistaken for love, when in reality they are manifestations of lust.
Faux love is initiated by physical sensations, i.e., the touch of a man, the feel of his lips, or the warmth of his embrace can all make a woman feel ‘in love’. Real love, however, is built upon a firm foundation of awareness, acceptance and commitment between two people. When love develops in God’s ordained order, the basis for their connection is strong, but not blind, because the couple has learned to know each other on all three levels.
If, however, bodily lust has been given preeminence, the flaws that are revealed after the wedding will seem even more pronounced. Discrepancies in personalities, thoughts or habits seem more disturbing, more irritating than if they’d been identified and overcome by a clear-thinking couple during courtship. The process of establishing spiritual and emotional intimacy, before marriage and before sex, is God’s procedure for dealing with such issues. After the vows have been consecrated is not the time to begin this discovery process.
As with everything that the Lord ordains for us, His steps to marriage are designed for our good. His order sets the foundation for happiness, strength and stability in a wedded relationship. The world is concerned only about sexual compatibility, advocating that two people explore their passions before establishing the bonds of spirit and soul. A young lady today is bombarded with the notion that only sex can hold a guy when, in fact, the exact opposite is true. Every woman possesses the requisite body parts…her unique mind, personality, and spirit are the factors that will hold him far more firmly than her body will.
You’ve no doubt heard this analogy, but it’s true nevertheless…physical intimacy is the icing on the cake, a delightful addition, a pleasurable completion, but the cake must be there first. For a believer, succumbing to the temptation to engage in premarital sexual activity, then marrying, is like piling up frosting to resemble a cake, then plopping the real one down on top of it. With no foundation to sustain it, the marriage is based upon an illusion and will collapse.
When we consider all the riches that the Godhead offers, spiritually, mentally and physically, settling for lip service Christianity means missing out on so many blessings and opportunities. One of these opportunities is the ability to follow the godly pathway that our sovereign Lord has designated in His steps to marriage. He’s given us the strength and power to do so, and we cannot rely anymore on excuses or “The devil made me do it.” That pretext doesn’t fit with the reality of God’s grace.
Too often if we proceed with ungodly conduct, we then expect our Father to bless us in the midst of the mess we’ve made, but it’s time to be concerned if this is our stance. Galatians 6:7, 8 reminds us, “Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, this he will also reap. For the one who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap corruption, but the one who sows to the Spirit will from the Spirit reap eternal life.”
By following God’s instructions, you’ll also reap a strong marriage. Until next week…Joy and Shalom!
Jo Lynne Pool
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