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Hi Ladies,

Even as Believers, we can spend an inordinate amount of time seeking ways to get around the directives of Almighty God.  We may follow Him with all our heart, but only up to the point where His Word and Holy Spirit’s leadings clash with our fleshly desires.  We ignore the fact that the path of the Lord leads only to our good, and if we do not stray from it, He will bring us to our ultimate joy filled destination.  If you’re single and marriage is a primary goal, His pathway is the only way to get there.  Only He can provide the right man, the one who will complement and complete your assignment, the man with whom you can jointly follow God’s instructions to fulfillment of His purposes.

Now let’s look at some of the modern dodges intended to maneuver us into positions where we might reach a goal, but not in the godly manner that brings Father’s best blessings.  These are stratagems of the adversary which will only draw us further from His plans.    

THE WHY CAN’T I’s…

We live in a contemporary culture that questions everything, and Christian single ladies are not immune from wondering about the answers to situations which may arise to tempt them.  These questions don’t necessarily spring from a hardened heart or a reprobate mind but may reflect genuine curiosity or confusion.  As Believers, we know better than to flaunt God’s obvious edicts, but often we seek more explicit answers for questions that don’t appear to be addressed directly in the Book.  Perhaps if there is no scripture that expressly prohibits a situation, it could be an area that is still open for discussion.  So, let’s consider a challenging query that women often ask, and evaluate God’s response.   Why can’t I…

Sleep with Him Because I Love Him, And We’re Going to Get Married Anyway?

This is a very popular satanic deception.  It appeals to physical desires through apparent logic…after all, what harm is there in moving up the bedroom encounter a bit?  One young lady who posed this question declared as her justification – “Love covers a multitude of sins, and love covers premarital sex as well.”

But unfortunately, though we might wish it did, it doesn’t.  This quote is from 1 Peter 4:8, “And above all keep fervent in your love for one another, because love covers a multitude of sins.”  But Peter is not referring to fornication.  Our Sovereign Lord does not contradict Himself.  Satan is a liar, and there is no truth in him (John 8:44).  If what you are thinking is directly opposed to the Word, it’s a lie.  1 Corinthians 6:18 tell us to “Flee immorality.  Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but the immoral man sins against his own body.”  Father does not tell us to flee fornication unless you’re in love and plan to get married.

Aside from conflicting with a command of the Creator, the problem with this rationale goes back to the snare of the enemy, “Defrauding”.  It’s a deception that often begins very early in relationships.

It is part of human nature to enjoy “lovemaking”, which is one of the reasons people have had no problems procreating and populating the planet.  We generally experience pleasure in intimate physical contact, so consequently it can be a major challenge for our willpower.  The attractions of the opposite sex may be very compelling.  And the natural urge to engage in passionate encounters has proven to be a temptation for many Christians, even with the best of intentions to abstain.

When defrauding and deception are added to the mix, consequences can be detrimental to the woman involved.  She may believe with all her heart that sleeping with her intended groom is permissible because of her ultimate intentions to wed, but that doesn’t change the fact that there is no marital covenant in effect, and she has no protection from God for her actions.  Her current activities are illegal in the sight of Father, and the results of her disobedience may be both harsh and unexpected.

More next week…Joy and Shalom!

Jo Lynne Pool