Single & Married Ladies – Visualize Him!

Hi Ladies,

While praying and awaiting your spouse’s arrival, an excellent use of the time God’s given you is to seek understanding of what you’re asking for. What’s your foundational criteria in a mate? Your prayers will be more effective if, instead of just making a wish, you acknowledge your desires and expect to receive them. As you visualize your husband, which aspects of him do you consider truly non-negotiable?

Let’s presume that his status as a Believer is the foremost necessity. Assuming that, what constitutes your next non-negotiable? Perhaps as we’ve discussed, you consider money to be crucial, and you’ll never be happy with, or able to respect, a man with limited earnings potential. Your guy could be thirty years older, notably smaller than you, and not at all handsome, but none of that matters if he can afford you.

Or maybe you require physical beauty in your mate and walking down the aisle with a fellow who doesn’t meet that criteria is not an option, regardless of how wonderful his other attributes are. If that’s the case, then hunker down and wait for God to deliver. You probably believe you’ll be happier not marrying at all rather than settling for a guy who doesn’t meet your strict surface demands.

Your decision to avoid such entanglements will cause you no problems so long as you maintain your convictions as a Believer, and don’t jump ship to hitch to an unbeliever who meets your standards. With such a choice, you will have crossed the line and fallen for a seducer. The difference between God’s Will and Satan’s deception is subtle, but real. The enemy’s goal is always to lure you away from our Father and from your faith, and if a choice points you in that direction it’s the wrong option.

An excellent method to determine if you’re rightly discerning the Lord’s guidance is when you experience perfect peace about the decision you’re contemplating.

1 Corinthians 14:33 – “For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace.”

Philippians 4:6,7 – “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your request be made known to God, and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”

Proverbs 20:24 – “A person’s steps are directed by the Lord.”

If you stay in prayerful touch with Holy Spirit and submitted to His leading, you can never miss out on His Plan, especially when perceiving and receiving your proper mate. Our Creator knows exactly who you are, where you are at all times, what you need, and how to get His chosen fellow to you. Just don’t shut yourself up inside your house waiting for a male to appear on your doorstep…get out and about, and on with your life. Proceed with friendliness and kindness to pursue your Vision, those goals that our Father has given you to accomplish. Acknowledge your marital desires both to the Lord and to yourself, then step back and allow Him to handle the details.

Snares of the Enemy

When you commence praying for a mate, or for any specific requests that you hold dear, expect to encounter obstacles and resistance. Traps will be set by the enemy all along the way because that’s his task, and he’s diligent and good at his job. Satan will utilize every snare imaginable to distract, detract and reroute you from your God-ordained path, and you must understand the forces you will combat. Knowledge is power, and knowledge of your enemy’s tricks gives you power to overcome them.

One of the first obstacles you’ll face when you meet a man who appeals to you, and whom you might regard as a potential mate, is the snare of “Attraction”. We’re going to delve deeply over the next few blogs into a topic that’s a true problem for many believing ladies, regardless of their age or experience, when they encounter the charms of the opposite sex. It takes a thorough knowledge of the “snares of the enemy” to avoid falling prey to the distraction.

More to come next week…Joy and Shalom!

Jo Lynne Pool