Single &Married Ladies – Stand Strong!

Hi Ladies,

Let’s continue with CS’s testimony. She is a strong, confident single, a spiritual warrior who sets a great example of faith in God and trust in His processes in her life. Let’s pick up our conversation of how her celibacy developed…

JP – “Did God just stop sending guys your way?”

CS – “No, and I’m glad of that, because I think I would have misunderstood if men stopped finding me attractive. I would have been thinking that maybe the reason I’m not having anybody to say “no” to is because nobody wants me to say yes to them. But the men have been there and His answer has been the same. It’s very important to me to become the friend of the man I will marry, and I think that when you have sex you cloud the friendship. It’s hard to develop the true and honest friendship that’s required. I think sex is the icing on the cake but you have to bake the cake first. That’s the friendship, the relationship, knowing one another and what the person likes and dislikes, how he feels about things, his sensitivities, and if he is easily provoked. The lovemaking part comes anyway, but the other parts of the relationship don’t just happen. You need to make sure you have the cake before you try to ice it.”

JP – “Do you have a list of attributes that you are praying for in a mate?”

CS – “Yes, I do. I don’t know that all of them have come from God, but knowing me and the things I like, I know what I’d like to have in a husband. But I trust that God will always do better than I can ever ask, so even if I give Him this list that I think is absolutely wonderful, He can send me somebody better than that. I believe we can’t even envision what God has in store for us, so I try not to limit Him. It’s important to me that the man be active and involved. It’s also important to me that he is tall. That’s just one of the things I like in men. It’s important to me that he is giving and that he has a family orientation. I think that if you have a sense of family, when you get a family you’ll have a much better sense of what that’s all about; that’s is, what it means to care, to give, to share, to love and to support. Also, I think I have a lot to bring to a relationship, and out there is some man who will appreciate the qualities I bring.”

JP – “Has God spoken to you regarding a husband?”

CS – “Yes. A husband has not been a propriety for me. I’ve enjoyed my life and being single. However, I was praying a few months ago asking God to direct my prayer life. ‘Tell me what I’m to pray for because You know what You’re going to do in my life and I want to pray according to that.’ God really surprised me because He immediately named three things I was to pray for, right there while I was still on my knees: a mate, a move, and a career change.

That was the first time He’s told me anything about a mate. It was like I had said, ‘Okay, You pour into this empty cup whatever You want to fill it with.’, and those are the things He filled my cup with that morning. I have been praying about them since then and I know I’m to pray about them until they come to pass. And at the end of this month, I’m moving.

It’s so awesome that you can talk to God and He talks back to you and allows you to see His hand at work! I’d like my life to be an example of what happens when you allow God to lead you, but it’s not our concern to know what He is doing and why.”

CS ended her story by praising God, as should we all! Moving on to new revelations next week…Joy and Shalom!