FB_IMG_1505402182118Hi Ladies,

As a godly woman, single for whatever reason, you are our Father’s perfect rose! And you are the most beautiful and valuable treasure that your future husband can possess, his personal gift from the Lord. No matter if you are young and saving your virtue for marriage, or divorced, or even currently sexually active, your own attitude of now seeking to serve God in full possession of your body is essential. I Corinthians and I Thessalonians will confirm what you already know through Holy Spirit.

Here’s RB’s answer to last week’s question, and its impact on her future marriage.

JP – “So how long were you celibate?”

RB – “For over ten years. I would like single women to know that you can live without a man; you can really do it. It’s all in giving everything over to the Lord. Just give Him a chance.”

JP – “What’s your opinion of celibacy?”

RB – “Well, if you want a good marriage, that has to come first. One of the ways I knew David respected me was that he respected my opinion on sex before marriage. If you meet a man who doesn’t try to change your mind, or give you reasons why you should, then even if you never get married, you’ve got a good friend.

Once I had a group of women over and we were talking in general, when one woman said she was looking to marry and the Lord had told her, ‘You’ve got to stop having sex with men if you want a husband.’ I feel very strongly that is true. I believe I received more revelation knowledge directly from God, because I abstained from sex. I always felt that if a man wanted my body and didn’t want to marry me, he could forget it. The two go hand in hand.”

JP – “Do you have any advice to pass along to single women?”

RB – “Have patience, patience, and more patience. And when you pray, act like the Lord heard you. The Scriptures tell us to keep on knocking and keep on seeking, but it’s important not to act like you’re desperate. If you get out there and you’re acting desperate, Satan looks at you and puts stumbling blocks in your way. There’s no need to be – your husband is out there. You may need to ask the Lord to open his eyes so he can see you, because that way you won’t go out there and get in the Lord’s way.

Keep yourself busy, not just doing things for yourself but for other people as well. Grandmother used to say, ‘Idle hands are the devil’s workshop.’ I went to school and took some classes, was active in my church and put in overtime on my job, so I had a full life and no time to worry about being married. Stay close to your family also if possible. Their input can really help.

Another thing is to be friendly. I didn’t know if David was Christian or not when I met him, but I was friendly. Even if you’re going to witness to someone, you need to have a friendly attitude. Be hospitable. My apartment was always open to people in need, single mothers or even couples. I enjoyed cooking and would invite single male friends who didn’t cook for themselves for dinner once in a while. I didn’t expect anything in return, but if you’re friendly, whenever you need a friend, you’ll have a friend, and you never know when you’ll need somebody.

If you learn to practice hospitality, you can establish your own traditions, especially for holidays. I would invite people over who were going to be alone. They weren’t all Christians, and they included people of all races and backgrounds. The first year I did that, two people became Believers. Their Christian walk began as a result of an act of hospitality and friendliness.”

JP – “Any final admonitions?”

RB – “You must let go and let God. Don’t get in front of God. In His perfect timing, you won’t marry the wrong man.”

That’s wisdom! Joy and Shalom until next week…