Hi Ladies,

Ever wonder what God is doing with you? Or if He knows where you are and what’s happening to you? Does He really care? The tree in this photo is a perfect example of the fact that our Father has got you covered! He knows exactly where you are, and has made plans for you to grow and prosper, no matter what the circumstances may appear to be. It’s certainly not clear why the builders of this lakeside walkway spared and built around this one small tree, but it really doesn’t matter to the tree. Despite all the dire possibilities that could have occurred, she is alive and thriving right where she is!

WHAT’S GOING ON?

“Delight yourself in the Lord; and He will give you the desires of your heart.” – Psalm 37: 4

Despite the thrilling promise in this scripture, many a single Christian woman secretly believes that God hasn’t yet given her the “desires of her heart.” For marriage-ready ladies whose future husbands seem to have been placed on indefinite hold, instead there is a question that frequently comes to mind which deserves closer examination. It’s the often present, but seldom acknowledged, petulant query of “Why does everyone else have their blessing, but I still don’t have mine?”

This is a resentful accusation that a perfectly well-adjusted single can direct against God, which will hamper her from happily living her own fulfilled life. You’ve heard the verse that “life and death are in the power of the tongue” (Proverbs 18: 21), but many Believers don’t fully understand this powerful truth. It means that what you think, or speak out of your mouth is literally what you give life to. When you release a negative declaration, such as “I don’t have my blessing”, you’re giving the adversary the ability to activate your words, and you will continue to “not have” what you want. Instead of speaking life, you are bringing death into that desire. James 1: 6 advises “but he must ask in faith, without any doubting, for the one who doubts is like the surf of the sea, driven and tossed by the wind.”

What “everyone else” has is never the real issue, and certainly “everyone else” is not married, nor do they desire to be. Some people who are married don’t consider themselves to be especially blessed, and no one should assume that of every wife. We tend to look at other peoples’ lives from our own perspective, giving them the same hopes and dreams as us. But their realities may be entirely different from what we’re projecting upon them.

For many ladies, the husband that God has given her is one of the most special gifts in her life. But the essential criterion is that the man must be the “right” one, the spouse whom Jesus himself has chosen, the fellow designed specifically for her. Otherwise, when individuals marry who are unsuited for each other, their wedded life can be uncomfortable at best, and a torment at worst.

But marriages still take place even when there are outright warnings from Holy Spirit against them. Our sovereign Lord will never let you enter a problematic union blindly, and there will have been danger signals along the way, which either went unnoticed or not heeded. No good can ever come from ignoring what the Father has ordained for our lives. And plenty of prayer and discernment is essential before hastily jumping at the “blessing” of a husband! Learning to recognize and understand what the Lord is telling you about a man you’d like to have a relationship with is crucial, because that’s what you must know first when seeking a godly marriage.

God in Scripture has promised us JOY, irrespective of marital status, and per Nehemiah 8: 10, “…the joy of the Lord is your strength.” Like the sapling here, relax and enjoy your life, knowing that He controls your situation, and has made all the right arrangements for your joy. Unless Father has told you to marry, don’t. Know without doubting that God’s got this!

Have a great week! Joy and Shalom!