Hi Ladies,
“Watch the path of your feet, and all your ways will be established.” -Proverbs 4: 26. This verse has particular importance as you travel your pathway toward fulfilling God’s purposes in your life, as well as toward marriage. The wedding day is only one of numerous choices and forks in the road that you must decide upon as you journey on your lifelong walk with the Lord. And it is not a final destination, only a goal that will recede as you encounter new ones which Christ will set out for you to attain.
Some key marital decisions to make are:
Do I actually want to get married? Am I ready to get married? Who is the right man, the spouse that God intends for me to spend my life with?
But other equally important considerations are:
What is my place in the Body of Christ? Am I a Teacher, a Preacher, an Evangelist, a Prophet, an Apostle? Am I moved to help unwed mothers, teens, elders, or the poor, or sick, or unsaved, and how does God want me to minister to them? Do I have a career that He is calling me to, and am I drawn to study and work toward achieving that as a goal? Do I have interests, capabilities and talents that I know the Lord has placed in me and wants me to develop? And what must I do to utilize them?
It’s easy to see the difference in these lists…much more time must be given to the second decisions than the first. Meeting, identifying, and marrying your husband is a task that is fairly simple compared to the other matters that our Father ordains for you to pursue. In fact, most of the work on the marriage front is intended to be done by the male anyway. You primarily need to listen for the Lord to confirm his status when he arrives.
You, as a godly woman, are the Lord’s sublime design, and there is a man somewhere searching just for you. In the original order of things, the male looks for the female – he is the seeker because woman was taken out of him bodily and he is incomplete without her. As a Believer and an integral component of the Body of Jesus Christ, you will be an irreplaceable blessing to the right guy. He’ll be charmed by and will love you, both for who you are and Whose you are, and for the fulfillment you’ll bring into his life.
But as often occurs, we ladies have our own plans and schedules, and you may become restless, impatient, or anxious as you wait on our Father to cross this marriage goal off your list. Our tendency is to step in and try to give God a little assist. Perhaps you’ve spotted a man you’re interested in and view him as a likely groom candidate. Maybe there’s a way to bring yourself to his attention, or to be proactive in pursuing an encounter. There’s a choice to make now…Is it time to sit back and wait, or instead is it time to be decisive and to make a move?
Probably not! When we most crave to plot our own course, and charge full speed ahead in attempting to establish a relationship, it’s actually time to sit down, calm down and pray. Consult the Author and Finisher of our Faith (Hebrews 12: 2). Ask Him for clarity about the actions you’re contemplating, and the reasons behind them. And seek His guidance on what, if anything, you should do.
When you’re certain that you are not trying to control, unduly influence, or chase down a fellow, you can then proceed in the manner in which God directs. Until then, however, settle back and wait. A godly pearl does not raise herself up on dainty little feet, and head off in search of someone to give herself to. She knows she is God’s precious gem, and understands that her good man will find her because he is already searching for her.
You can trust that God will show him where you are! Joy and Shalom!
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