Single & Married Ladies – Break Free!

Hi Ladies,

Let’s consider the concept of “soul ties”. Surely you’ve heard of them, and there’s a real possibility that they may be active in your life, influencing how you interact with men, and impacting your potential marriage. They can become chains that bind you to a distant past, hampering your future and your joy. And they must be broken for you to move on into the blessings that Our Father intends for you to have. So, what signs indicate that these destroyers could be present in your life?

Altered Memories

Are you captivated by visions of a former relationship, recalling with fondness and longing how perfect the fellow was, or how things could or should have been different? It’s a quick step from embellishing memories to casting blame and anger upon Father God, rather than investigating the reality of what happened and adjusting your thinking.

Instead of creating images of how wonderful life might have been, if only…such deceptions must be confronted and released because no matter how compelling the recollections, a failed relationship was, by definition, not flawless. Clinging to the past or to false regrets will only hold you bound there. When no other man will ever be as good as the one you “lost”, or you feel you’ve “missed out” on your one and only chance for happiness, you do not give yourself permission or space to move on. But the truth is that without the haze of forgetfulness, or the veneer of idealistic and selective memory, you are freed to recognize when a particular guy was actually unsuitable for you.

There are many factors which cause human interactions to be terminated, and not all are negative. Sometimes it was really nobody’s fault that a relationship ended…it ceased simply because it had to, in God’s sovereign will. But by becoming overwhelmed with daydreams about the stellar qualities of a certain fellow, you’ll allow the enemy to convince you that what the Lord ordained to happen was wrong. And the real question is why would you choose to believe the lie?

Such a revisionist attitude, with its inaccurate and altered “memories”, can be a manifestation of the psychological linkage of a soul tie.   Every man who has had a sexual connection to us leaves a residue of himself within us, both materially and in our soulish realm. Similarly, everyone with whom we’ve become emotionally intimate leaves a tie to our emotions. Clearing away these past connections is essential in order to become free of useless links that can clog your mind and spirit. Often these ties run far deeper than you realize, and in addition to prayer, spiritual counseling may be helpful to break such bondages.

It is never God’s plan for you to become mired in a miserable marriage or one which will end in divorce. If a man to whom you became physically or emotionally linked did not become your husband, praise God for protecting you and thank Him for the one who will be. That’s the guy to concern yourself with, not with the fellow who didn’t make the cut.

There is always a good reason when God doesn’t permit us to move forward in a relationship. Your best response in this circumstance is to trust Him, lift your hands in joyful praise, and stop trying to second guess the Lord or “fix” things. Let Him do His own work.

The good news is that as long as there is breath in your limbs, Our Father is not finished with you yet, and you must accept that He doesn’t make mistakes, not now, not in the past, nor in the future. It is essential to stay in fellowship and right standing with Him, prayerfully following where He leads you, without dragging along false beliefs that shackle you to bygone years.

Instead of clinging to the image of a man you’ll never marry, relax and allow the Lord to guide you along the way HE has set out for you to follow. If there is a God-ordained husband in your future, you will only meet him on that path.

Have a great week – Joy and Shalom!