Single & Married Ladies – He’s Won You Over!

Hi Ladies,

It’s Christmas! And despite the numerous songs wanting love as a present, and even a movie entitled “A Husband for Christmas”, God has already given us the best of all possible gifts – Salvation through Jesus Christ!   Regardless of the actual birth date of Our Savior, as Believers, this season is a special time to celebrate the glory and the magnitude of His arrival.  So I wish you a joyous Merry Christmas!

Now as far as that gift of a spouse, let’s move on to #11 of the 12 Ways to Know He’s the Right Man for You . If you’re considering signing on the dotted line with a lifelong mate, be sure that You love AND honor him.  He must be the man that you respect, trust and want to marry.   Then “Your heart will rejoice, and your joy no one will take from you.” – John 16: 22.

GENUINE POTENTIAL?

If you are a confident single woman, in tune with The Almighty, and ready to step into a God-ordained relationship, you don’t require a man for validation of your worth…you already know it. Instead you may primarily value him for love, companionship and friendship.  And as a committed Believer, you may be inclined to see all other Believers as having intrinsic worth, placing emphasis on the fact that a man is a Christian above all else.  So what if he has issues…who doesn’t? You may be more interested in his God-given potential.

And we know that although Our Father answers prayers, He doesn’t always do so in exactly the manner we expect. Unlike in the fairy tales, handsome, dashing princes are in precariously short supply, and the number of available Christian guys may seem to be even fewer.  If one comes along who is not completely “perfect”, and doesn’t check off every criteria on your list, that may no longer be a problem.

What if you’re just not certain anymore?   Increasingly, thoughts of “I’m tired of waiting”, or “This may be the only (or last) man who will ever ask me to marry him”, may interfere with decision-making.  So could this imperfect fellow actually be God’s answer?  Should you open your heart to him?

There is always the possibility that a flawed Believer may, in fact, be the man that God has chosen for you.  Only you, under His guiding Hand, can make this decision. Only you can know if you are able to commit fully to him, that you will deal with concerns as they arise, and that you are willing to treat him with honor and respect .

RESPECT/ADMIRATION

Despite the faults that a guy may possess, The Bible still calls upon a wife to display certain attitudes toward her husband. These are deep seated, psychological requirements mandated by his masculinity that only his feminine counterpart can supply, and a man will always be drawn to the woman who demonstrates these behaviors toward him.

Foremost is his need for Respect, rivaling even the desire for physical intimacy.  It provides a validation essential to his happiness and sense of wellbeing.   Dictionary.com defines Respect as “Esteem for, or a sense of the worth or excellence of a person; proper acceptance or courtesy; acknowledgment; the condition of being esteemed or honored.” Admiration entails “the act of looking on or contemplating with pleasure; an object of wonder, pleasure or approval.”

The lady who views her mate with respect and admiration will show him honor and hold him in high regard, at least most of the time.  There is, of course, scriptural verification of this requirement: Ephesians 5: 33 – “And let the wife see that she respects her husband.”    And our wifely exemplar, the ever energetic paragon of virtue in Proverbs 31 treated her husband so well that she reaped the honor of eternal praise.  Proverbs 31: 11, 12 – “The heart of her husband safely trusts her; so he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life.”

Your chosen fellow will naturally receive your love, but he should also have earned your respect as well! JOY AND SHALOM this Blessed Christmas and Hanukah season! See you next week~