Single & Married Ladies – You’re Prime Time!

Hi Ladies,

Does your fellow view you as his highest priority, second only to his relationship with Christ? Our Savior is always #1 in the life of any Believer, but in a loving relationship between a man and woman, your guy’s road should always lead straight to you!  #5 on the checklist of 12 Ways to Know He’s Right for You is that he spends time with you.

Our Father God delights in you, since as I Peter 2: 4 declares, you are “Chosen by God and precious.”   A man who wants you, who loves you, and who knows that you are precious to him will demonstrate it by desiring to be close to you.  He doesn’t need to be coaxed or nagged into spending time with you.  He seeks and values your actual physical proximity.

Everyone today has innumerable influences vying for our attention. With career, television, social media, friends, spiritual pursuits and sports, a man may have very little leisure time, and he must make decisions on which activities to choose.  But the one who is right for you will see through all of the distractions to identify and focus on you.

Special Lady?

Are you his “prime time”, or have you been placed on a sideline in his life? Does he talk to you, relax with you, and prefer your company over any others?  What about his list?  We’ve discussed your need for a list of attributes you desire in a mate, but your fellow likely has one too.  Being a male, it’s probable that his criteria list isn’t written down anywhere, but it still exists!  And are you on it, a special lady who matters greatly to his sense of joy and wellbeing?  And does he let you know it?

Scripture notifies us that “An excellent wife is the crown of her husband.” (Proverbs 12: 4).  Your God-ordained man will understand and accept this as God’s truth for his life.

Dating?

But before you ever get to that point, first you’ve got to meet him and establish a relationship! People now commonly do so by dating, and a godly single lady must be clear on what that involves.

The concern here is with our interpretation of the word ‘dating’. Dictionary.com defines a date as “An appointment for a particular time, especially with a person to whom one is sexually or romantically attached.”  This activity is so commonplace that there is little thought given to the process, but it’s not addressed in the Word of God.

There is, of course, no mention of dating in Scripture because it wasn’t practiced until modern times. “Courting” eventually became the extended process of getting acquainted that was observed by most of American society.  Today, dating has become the accepted means of finding a marital partner, and it isn’t going away.

However, as Believers, we must make an honest evaluation of the mindset involved in the typical dating scenario. We’ve probably adopted the world’s attitudes toward this activity without close examination.

The problem is that traditional dating advocates an un-Christlike, throwaway mentality. If we discover that a man isn’t a suitable marriage candidate, we waste no further thought on him.  But what does God call upon us to do?  We are directed to invest prayers and involvement with people in order to be a blessing to them in whatever way He requires.

1 Timothy 2: 1, 3 – “Therefore I exhort first of all that supplications, prayers, intercessions and giving of thanks be made for all men, for this is good and acceptable in the sight of God our Savior…”

The right fellow, the one who will merit your time, will treat you as his priority, and he may certainly want to take you out. But dating as a search for a spouse is a waste of the precious and limited hours that Our Father has given us.  Seeing people through the eyes of Christ keeps our focus on The LORD, and helps us view a man not as a potential husband candidate, but as a human being with a purpose and value in the Kingdom of God.

Joy and Shalom!

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