Single & Married Ladies – Are You Important?

Hi Ladies,

“He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from The LORD.” – Proverbs 18: 22. This is the attitude that a husband is expected by God to hold toward the wife he has been blessed with.  It is also the attitude to expect from your husband-to-be.  He must believe this scripture and be willing to treat you as precious and special to him.  This meets #4 on the list of 12 Ways to Know He’s Right for You….He is attentive to you and responsive to your needs, especially in courtship!

As a Woman of Faith you are a treasure to Almighty God. And as a virtuous Believer, you are precious not only to God Himself, but also to other people.  Self-esteem, self-confidence, self-worth  – these are not ungodly concepts.  Instead they reflect who you are in Christ Jesus, and you have a right to anticipate that a potential mate will honor you as the unique individual that God has created for him.

If you have been saved for many years, the beauty of your redeemed self may be something you now take for granted. Perhaps you’ve even shut yourself away and forgotten about your attributes as a godly woman, but now is a good time to open up that locked box that may be restricting your potential.  You are a Daughter of the King of Kings, possessing Christ’s royal spiritual blood!

Fortunately, it isn’t necessary to advertise your redeemed value to the world. Men are gifted with special radar about women.  They are always aware of the females around them, and they know, even if only vaguely, whether one is of potential interest to them.  Your goal should not be to impress everybody with your stellar qualities…instead simply polish up your assets and let the shine speak for itself.

The Bible illustrates how special we women should be in our man’s sight in Proverbs 31: 10, “Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies.”  That’s a high worth indeed since, in biblical days, rubies were extremely rare and were the most highly sought of gemstones, even above diamonds.  A good wife, who is first and foremost a good woman, is essentially priceless.

So does your fellow view you as a valuable treasure? Does he request your opinion, is concerned about your desires, and seeks to please you?  Does he pay close attention to your needs?  (Not all of them, of course, but most!)  Does he let you know that you are important to him?  Who’s chasing who, and who is doing most of the work in your relationship?

What about your own opinion of your worth? Who do you think determines your value?  Do other people decide for you that you are priceless or worthless?

The good news is that others, particular male others, will accept the value that you place upon yourself, whether high, or low, or in-between, and they will act accordingly. After all, who would know better than you?

A man may try to guess at your worth, but he doesn’t really know. But when you understand and embrace your own value, setting your worth high and acting accordingly, those around you will comprehend your value as well.  And if you don’t think you’re worth much, then it’s unlikely that they will either.

A woman who projects an attitude of self-respect generates respect for herself in others. A pastor friend characterizes this as “A woman demands respect, but a lady commands it.”  It’s how we “carry ourselves”, not with an attitude of arrogance or pride, but with awareness and acceptance of who Our Father has called us to be.

The right man for you will understand your value to him. He will believe in his heart and know in his Spirit that you are worthy of whatever sacrifices he must make to obtain and keep you.

Accept your status as a Believer in Christ, estimate your merit properly, and let it be seen by others. Don’t devalue yourself, but remember who and Whose you are.  The right man for you will see that you are priceless.

Joy and Shalom!