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Hi Ladies,

So it’s all about the men, right? Based on FaceBook stats, by far the most responses to my blog posts have been when I’ve discussed fellows, what they’re like, what they like, and what God says about them.  That’s fine with me since I’ve written a book on the subject!

A GOOD MAN IS HARD TO FIND…Unless You Ask God to Be Head of Your Search Committee, is all about men.  Over 60,000 people have bought the book since Thomas Nelson first published it.  It is filled with insights from the Bible on the topic of godly and not-so-godly men, and it’s still relevant because Our Father has never changed His Word.  My new book, LOVE IN THE BOOK 2 – The Partner Guide is also about God’s guys.

After 35 posts, I’d like to connect more directly with the interests and concerns of my readers, who are primarily single and married ladies. Because my intention is to serve your needs, the blog will refocus on men, and how to both establish and maintain strong godly marriages with them.

12 Ways to Know He’s Right for You

This topic will be explored in detail in upcoming posts, but a one page quick checklist will be emailed to everyone who signs up for the Love in the Book blog posts.  Other materials are also being developed which will be sent at no cost to subscribers to the blog, as God directs.  My commitment is to honestly address your relationship questions in a way that no one else has.  And to hear from you about them!

#1 – He Found You. “He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from The LORD.” – Proverbs 18: 22

“Find” is the most important word in this scriptural observation. A wife is not only a good thing…she is a God thing!  She’s a gift to her husband from The LORD, and the right woman is a treasure that men eagerly search for, and are both happy and blessed when they find her.  And Our Father has implanted hunter instincts within His men that make them willing to make the effort to seek her out.

But even in this day of aggressively seductive females, most fellows are somewhat disconcerted when a woman throws herself at them. They may be delighted to have her do the work for them, but secretly she has lessened her value in their eyes.

Yes, it may be “old-fashioned”, but we ladies must learn to value ourselves as much as God does. Who do you think determines your value?  Do other people decide for you that you are priceless or worthless, and you must live your life according to their valuation?  The answer is emphatically No!

As a Woman of Faith you are a treasure from Almighty God, and no other person establishes your value except you. You are free to declare your worth, and the opinions of others are worthless.  You can chose to accept them if they treat you with esteem, or reject their opinions entirely if they denigrate you.

The good news is that others, especially male others, will accept the worth that you place upon yourself, whether high, low, or in-between, and they will act accordingly. After all, who would know better than you?

Proverbs 31: 10 observes “Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies.”  That is a high value indeed since, in biblical days, rubies were extremely rare and the most highly sought of gemstones, even above diamonds.  A good wife, who is first of all a good woman, is essentially priceless to the man who finds her.  And there’s that word again – you won’t need to track your man down… he’ll do the work to find you!

So, #1 on the list is that he chose you as his special lady!

More to come on our “Right for You?” list…Joy and Shalom!

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